by Jane

After a decade of dating, living together, and household responsibilities my significant other has still never asked me to marry him. It's been discussed and it never resolves.

Recently while arguing he went away and came back with a ring box he set down in front of me and said I've had this for 2 years but you are never nice to me. He is right I have been keeping him at arms length because I don't want to be hurt but I think it's too late for that. I'm not sure what he wanted to accomplish by taunting me with said ring. He never opened the box or even asked yet again.

I love this man but I am reaching a point where I need to love myself too. Thoughts?

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