Little too late or better late than never

by anonymous


Long story short as I can make it. Both my partner and I are 32. We have been together 16 years and have lived together 10 years and have 3 children together. My oh has never and I mean never been romantic or thoughtful and I suppose this few years I have been feeling quite hurt by his actions or should I say lack of but my oh decided to propose recently and I accepted but I'm feeling quite resentful as I could never fathom why he didn't years ago.

I do love him so much but I can't get over the fact that he waited 16 years. I want to be excited and happy but I just simply feel silly. What is wrong with me?

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