lost all feelings for my spouse

by Lisa Marie

Been together 30 yrs and married 26.We have 2 adult children still at home. Spouse always preferred company of friends over me. Earned more money than I but paid less into the house (needed money for himself but none for me). Whenever I suggested a holiday or an outing somewhere spouses reply was I've no money.

Through the years I have lost all romantic feelings and admitted this to my spouse a few years ago. Since then we have grown further apart and sleep in separate rooms. Spouse is happy to live like this for financial reasons. I feel like I'm dying a slow death with nothing to look forward to in life.

Does anyone else live like this and if so how is it?

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