Marriage help

by Boab
(New York)

I feel that my wife is very emotionally needy but never tries to improve her situation. Over the last few years I've tried to motivate her, get her some education, life skills and encourage her. Now all she does is play games on her phone, watch mind numbing tv shows and not achieve anything. She has also put on weight, doesn't exercise and doesn't eat healthily.

This is very frustrating for me because I'm the opposite of what she has become. I'd really like her to turn around her situation but I'm exhausted with her and don't know where to turn next other than to exit. Help please?

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Eugene Kayser, lic. Marriage & Family Therapist

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