Married But Not Married

by Marie
(Philadelphia)

I married two years ago, but at one year and 2 months of marriage we are separated. In this relationship we not have any kids, which is a good thing. But sometimes I think about divorce because it's too many months alone, waiting for him to decide what exactly he needs in his life.

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Nov 18, 2011
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by: SOl

Hi,
Is it difficult engaging in a one-on-one chat with your husband, and letting him know for sure that you cannot live this way? Do you still intend to take the position of "let me wait and see what happens?"

I think it's time you decided what is good for you: moving on or waiting for things to change between the two of you. You are woman and if he doesn't want you, there are plenty of men out there that can cherish you and give you the love and admiration that you seek.

Get his attention directly and if this doesn't work, call friends and families to help you talk things out with him.
Sep 21, 2011
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by: Anonymous

DEAR MARIE,

I KNOW YOU KEEP HOPING. HOWEVER WAITING AROUND IS NEVER A GOOD IDEA, ESPECIALLY WHEN IT WAS NOT YOUR CHOICE IN THE FIRST PLACE.

TIME DOES NOT WAIT FOR ANYONE. LIFE IS PASSING YOU BY AND PERHAPS THE "RIGHT" PARTNER AS WELL.

IF HE REALLY WANTED TO BE WITH YOU, HE WOULD BE RIGHT NOW.

LOVE YOURSELF AND MOVE ON HONEY. GOOD LUCK!

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