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My boyfriend has blocked me

by Bec
(China)

I have a long distance relationship for almost eight years. I move from early 40s to early 50s and he moves from early 50s to late 50s.


His work required him to travel so we could hardly meet, but we kept daily contact.

Though distanced, we have made great progress in the last eighteen months. When I visited his town, he brought me to his apartment and to dinner with his sister. I am sure there is love between us.

We have not fought or argued. A few weeks ago, he was still telling me that he was mine. Last Sunday, he sent me an email saying that he would contact me soon and ask me not to text or call him. And he blocked me from WeChat, which is our usual communication app.

It was devastating to find out he had blocked me, like a door slamming right in front of my face. I felt so rejected. Why did he want me to be out of his way completely ?

Is he going into his man's cave ? Or is he breaking up with me ?

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