My boyfriend owes my parents money
by Alicia
(California)
Keeping it short and sweet... My boyfriend of 8 years (we do not live together or have children together, but we both have children from previous marriages) owes my parents a large sum of money. Over 100k. There is a payment plan set up, but he does not abide by it and basically, he pays them a drop here and a drop there and for the most part has stopped paying them anything at all.
I find myself infuriated by it, and it has tainted our relationship to the point where I feel I might need to just walk away. It is, of course, more complex. He is very generous with money with myself and my son. Takes us to dinners and sporting events etc. But with this debt to my parents... it just doesn't seem to matter to him at all. I've discussed it with him endlessly. He is an extremely effective 'salesperson' and somehow at the end of his schpeel, I find myself understanding his position (business is rough right now) and believing he will pay them back. But then another couple months go by and he doesn't give them a penny, or the courtesy of an email or phone call either.
Should I just walk away? We mixed business with pleasure, and I'm paying the price. Ugh.
Thanks.
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