My Brother-In-Law's wife is out to sabotage our family....

by Patrese

My brother-in-law just married a woman that the rest of the family, (including my husband who is his brother, their parents and grandparents) thinks is trying to sabotage his relationship with the rest of us.

She is constantly creating situations that cause him to fight with my husband and parents-in-law, and she even managed to nearly ruin our wedding day a few weeks ago. Now his parents are saying we need to simply forgive and forget, and be the bigger people while moving on.

But we have had problems with them before that we just "let go," (mostly regarding our wedding over the past 2 years) and now we think something needs to be done...

What should we do? We've tried talking to them but they don't seem to get it.

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