My husband called me fat

by anonymous

My weight has always been an issue. When we got married I was 136 pounds. 17 years and 2 kids later, I am 187 pounds. I have struggled with my weight since having my last child in 2012 and then in 2020 I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I am all clear with cancer but need to take medicine that is slowing reducing the estrogen in my body. I admit that I am overweight, but even when I weighed 150 pounds he complained about my weight.

I brought up renewing our vows and he said he would only do that if I lost weight. His constant criticism of my weight gives me NO motivation to lose the weight. I don't want him to think I am doing it because he told me too. He loves to take credit for everything.

Last night he asked me if I was ok with being fat? I told him that was rude but he just laughed. I said it was not a laughable moment but he said it was.

I am been struggling with this for so long, I don't know what to do anymore. I hate conflict so I never fight back. I am just so broken.

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