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My husband doesn't want to spend time with my family

by Pamela
(Washington)

Hi there,
I need some advice. My husband usually has a hard time spending time with my family. My family and I are very close and we see each other once a week. I don't ask my husband to come to our weekly dinners and he will usually come to family events like b-days and holidays. The problem is that he usually doesn't talk too much and in our recent 2 day trip he had an attitude the whole time. I became extremely angry with him because I'm not like that with his family. My husband says he cannot connect to family and he doesn't know what to talk about with them.

I feel really hurt and I don't know how he can engage more with them. I just don't understand why he cannot put more effort on this when he knows family to me is very important. We don't have kids yet, but I'm terrified that this will get worse with kids. Please help me.

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Nov 30, 2020
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Hard to answer this one
by: Anonymous

Wow - the advice from that man was bad advice in my opinion. However i am in a similar position and it seems many women are.

I came here looking for advice on it and i certainly don't think slabbering over my husband will solve the problem and be seen to condone his moody ass behaviour. I honestly am at a loss over what to do except to leave my husband as i can't deal with the stinking surly moods he gets in when it comes to my family being around. Not great advice but better than elevating your husband above your family i think x

Apr 16, 2020
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Husband doesnot spend time with my family
by: Anonymous

I THIS HAS been my wife's problem with me. I love the one one one companionship with my wife. I feel that when I am with her family her attention gets divided. Even her family members treat me respectfully just because I'm married to my wife. After a hard weekend I feel like spending a weekend where I also am given the control to decide how we would like to spend time. A feeling of playing a second fiddle comes in. A feeling of forcefully talking to people who I don't connect with comes in to play.....I feel that if you start making your husband feel always special when he is with your family ...like praising hI'm genuinely in presence of your family. Always take a second opinion of your husband in presence of your family members.This could work. You could try always to sit next to him and hold his hand while interacting with family members may definitely work. See its different for males like me or your husband. Your family is NOT his family for him. Hence an extra need to express that your husband is your number one priority is required. Always ask him for his of approval when say your mother or brother in law or even children have demanded something. I'm sure your hubby loves you. You need to change your approach. Regards.Riyaz.India.


Feb 24, 2020
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Any response
by: Anonymous

Hi Pamela

Did you get any response on this? I am going through the same with my husband :(

Its unbearable. I do everything with his family even though. I have connection problems with them too. Been there for all visits and events. Just so hard for me.

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