My husband says there is no hope.
by Julie
(Erie)
I will try to keep this short, so here goes the basics. I’ve been married for 15 years & we have 3 sons together, (including a new baby only 5 months old).
Our marriage has absolutely had its ups & downs (both at points have been unfaithful years ago) but we have stuck together and still love each other very much. We both have issues though, like I have anxiety & he has ADHD & within the past couple years he has been on Adderall. (Not sure if that is affecting his feelings towards me? Within this year he has told me (usually when fighting) that he doesn’t want to be with me anymore. He says our marriage is doomed and we both don’t compliment each other & would be better off with different people. Just recently as a last resort he’s agreed to do counseling but says he knows it won’t change his mind :( I’m completely devastated and don’t want to lose him.
I wonder if anyone thinks it may be saved? Even when the spouse says there is no hope & our problems are deep rooted? Any advice is appreciated. <3
Eugene Kayser, lic. Marriage & Family Therapist
418 Stump Rd., Montgomeryville, PA 18936
215-813-8633
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