My son has cut me out of his life

by Kay Dee
(Roanoke, VA)

My son and the mother of his daughter is no longer together and they share custody. I have been maintaining somewhat of a relationship with her. She has always been kind to me and I her. My son has such a hate for her and does not want me to have anything to do with her.

Recently I had my grand daughter over with her sisters on her mothers side during the week that was the moms time to have her. He saw this as a complete betrayal to him. He said that I made my choice and he doesn't want to see me any more and if I want to see his daughter (my granddaughter) I will have to get her from her mother from now on.

This has cut me very deeply as I have loved and supported him his whole life of 34 years. I go back and forth from deep pain to anger and I need help seeing this clearly. Did I betray him? Is it ok for even my son to tell me who I can or can not have a relationship with? I apologized for hurting him but he said that was not good enough, he's done with me. What do I do?