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My Wife Is Never Home.

My wife is going out daily till 3, 4 or sometimes 8 in the morning. Things were good until I asked her to spend more time with me. Now she says she will camp out in the back yard for a month to see if I am going to change.


I have abused alcohol in the past, but for the past 2 months now I have not gotten drunk. I told her if she were home more often, she would be able to see that I have changed.

If I don't change, she is going to leave me. What should I do?


It sounds like you and your wife have several things you need to talk about, preferably with a counselor: alcohol abuse and what you want your marriage to look like.

If you have been abusing alcohol during your marriage, you should consider attending some meetings at Alcoholics Anonymous so that you will have some support while you are in recovery. This will also demonstrate to your wife that you are serious about staying sober.

As for your wife being out all night, that will not help your marriage. Why not find a counselor that specializes in marital work, and see if you can reach some agreements on how you want to conduct yourselves in your marriage.

Best of luck,

Gene Kayser
The Couples Guide

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