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by rick

Well I have been married for almost 3 years. I love my wife but I don't love her like I should. I've have tried changing my life style. I've made sacrifice, to make less money to be with my wife. It's seems like more and more, I want just get up and leave her. She like to bring my pass.


I am just not attracted to her. I see other women that I could be with but I keep trying to work things with my wife. Now I have hit a point all I'm doing is going thru the motions. Idk if it's my age or mindset. I have high goals but she doesn't help or contribute to make it together.

All i can think is if i get divorce, I will lose all my friends, I have strong Christian belief and it's something I don't want to do. I would rather be divorced before I cheat on her.

Anyone have advice?

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