need to talk

by Matt
(Connelly Springs NC USA)

my wife is tired of me lying. she says that she needs me to have a job before she makes love to me again. and she is with a married guy on the side who has an open relationship. she also works with him. we don't have a car yet, her other man is fixing it but i feel he's taking his time with it.

i went to jail in august but i beat it. she still loves me, but i don't know what to do. i feel i'm in a holding pattern, and her other man is holding all the cards. she wants me to find myself but i don't know what that is. please help!

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