new husband quits his job after only being married for 3 weeks.

by Feeling taken advantage of

I'm pushing 60. Divorced after 30+ yrs in 2012. Moved out of state. Met my now husband in 2015. He had a good paying job. So did I. He proposed 2019. Got married 2021 he quit his job 3 months later.

We have been separated since early 2022 because I don't agree with this. He has already gone thru his 401k. Took additional cash out of his IRA. I don't agree with taking this kind of chance this late in life. Beside the fact I straight up asked him that if we were not married, would he have quit his job. He said no.

Am I the bad guy?

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Eugene Kayser, lic. Marriage & Family Therapist

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