Newly married. Feeling trapped. Used. And overlooked.

by Nancy
(United states)

Newly married at 33. My husband has 3 previous wives and I feel like he has given so much to the women before me, and in turn I'm only getting part of him. And it's not the good part.

I'm always to blame. He won't see it from my perspective. I am giving up and when I try to tell him I'm giving up, he finds a way to make our issues my fault. I love him but I'm only human and can only take so much. There have been other issues between us, some physical, lots of lies from him that I've overcome and accepted. But the moment I question something, or have a funny feeling and express it in any way, he is great at somehow turning it on me.

I'm at a loss. I need help!

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