Not just a wife and mom

by Anonymous

I was invited to dinner By a female friend and business associate to her club. I confirmed with my husband that he was ok with keeping the kids (3 and 6) that day and he was. The day of, he asked when I’d be home and I said probably by 8:30 and if not, I’d text to let him know. Unbeknownst to me, the dinner was a 50th anniversary celebration for the club and the 5 course dinner just went on and on with speeches etc. At 8:20 I sent a text stating that we were still eating dinner and I didn't know when we’d be done. When we left the club, I sent another text alerting him that I was on my way home.

When I arrived home, my husband was furious. He called me a liar for not telling him when I’d be home. This is a continuous problem for us and I don’t really understand his anger. I don’t go out often with friends; maybe 1 every other month and I never stay out terribly late. He says I don’t communicate with him so I try to text every little bit to keep him updated, especially when plans change. He says he just worries about me but I’m not sure what else I can do. At this point, he’s not even really speaking to me and won’t talk about it anymore.

I’m not willing to not have a social life at all. I need time with my friends too. I’m at a loss and am very concerned for my marriage. Anyone have any experience with a similar situation?