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Partners or not?

by Mark
(Seattle)

I have clinical depression, which I take medicine for. I also get anxiety, which is triggered by certain things. One of those things is a cluttered, messy house. I have been trying to clean and organize the house. However, I get almost no help from my partner. Sometimes, my son will help...a little. But, most of the time, everyone in the house is sitting on their butts while I am cleaning.


I have a bad back but push through the pain to get the house to a state where it could be easier to keep relatively clean. My partner complains of physical maladies that prevent them from helping. She hasn't been able to keep a job during Covid long enough to get insurance. I am starting to resent her.

I love her but whenever I mention my anxiety, she responds with a malady of her own. I feel like she doesn't take me seriously.

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