Post pregnancy, getting horny many times a day, is that normal?

by anonymous

I am a male, near forty, married and a father of one. Since we got pregnant 2 years ago and afterward when our lovely daughter was born, our sexual life has almost vanished. Between the two of us, I always have the higher libido and my wife, the new mother in town, has almost no libido since the baby arrived. To give an idea of our situation, before our pregnancy we used to have sex, maybe once a month; after our pregnancy, during these two and half years we had sex only 4 times.


During the last few months, I am facing this odd problem of getting an erection many times when I am home and my wife is around. It's not like a random erection without sexual thought, it's like I am always ready to have sex with her. With the baby, both of us go through tremendous stress and work pressure, despite that I get hard many times a day. She is also surprised and bit irritated that how can I get such thoughts in such situations. I am so embarrassed and do not exactly know what to do.

How do I cope up with the situation? We are trying to talk about the matter without any question of accusation and trying to help each other. Should I/we seek medical help? What should I/we do to make it better?

Appreciate your thoughts and for sharing your experience.

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