Prince Charming to Prince Fear

by Anonymous

My husband and I dated for 14 months before we were married. In that time he was affectionate, generous, protective and spent a lot of his time with me.

We have been married now for 8 months. Since we have been married he spends most of his time at work, ignores me, puts me down, there is no affection or intimacy. When I reach out to him, he ignores me or gets angry. He spent Christmas with his family and I was not allowed to go! I spent Christmas Day alone (I have no family of my own).

I am a personal trainer and musician (we met when I was performing on stage, solo singer guitarist).

When I try to speak to him from a loving place, as I am confused with how much he has changed towards me in a short time, he gets very annoyed with me. I am seeing a COUNSELOR, but I'm at my wits end.

I don't know what to do. It doesn't matter what I do, he is mostly angry all the time.

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