Relationship issues

by Anonymous

I've been in a relationship for 4 years now and we are planning for marriage. My boyfriend provides for my needs and never let me lack anything. But he is never affectionate towards me.

I feel so lonely deep down. Each time we are together, he is always chatting with female friends even when I request for a heart to heart talk. Each time I tell him how I feel about things he does, he said I complain too much and nagging him. He never considered about my feelings and he is too secretive. He prefers sharing his worries and problems with female friends and never with me. If I complain, he says I'm troubling him and I should keep all to myself,which now resulted to bitterness towards him.

Each time I see him being so loving and too nice to other ladies, I feel jealous, angry and overreact immediately by calling him names. He makes me feel like I'm never enough and don't worth anything. This breaks me down physically, emotionally and mentally. Please I need some advice...

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