Relationships after rehab

by Angelina

I have been in and out of a 10 year relationship for the past year. my partner suffers from substance, alcohol and gambling addiction. there was also an issue of infidelity five years into the relationship. Which took me another five to recover and forgive him. relationship started rather abruptly but they were mutual feelings from the start not just attraction.

However my partner entered a rehab a month ago and he’s due to come back “home” although I have forgiven him and let go of the past altogether from my personal healing, I still love him. I have hope for his sobriety yet I am indecisive about our future together….. all I want is for us to be a family again however I don’t to be let down again.

In the meantime I am feeling completely indecisive if I want to travel on his road to sobriety along with myself and my children.

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Eugene Kayser, lic. Marriage & Family Therapist

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