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Sexless marriage

by Anonymous

Married for seven years with three kids but my issue is there is no sex in my marriage.


It's been two years since we had sex. I have tried everything possible but she's not interested. She has told me to go outside and get my self a sexual partner or another woman for that. She does not kiss or smooch as she says those are things for newly weds. Meanwhile she's just 30 and I'm 37. We more or less live like Brother and sister and we don't even sleep in the same room. Besides that we are cool and everyone pretty much does what they want and no serious digging into my activities or hers. As long as I can provide financially she's ok.

I'm considering getting a second wife or mistress because I'm tired of masturbating.

Advice pls

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