I’ve been married for 7 years and find myself really struggling to stay married. We have two children and the bulk of our household and family responsibilities falls on me. He changes the baby’s diaper once a day and acts like he changed every diaper the baby ever soiled. He doesn’t get up when the baby wakes up. My husband occasionally puts the baby down for naps. He doesn’t do a single household chore. I mean down to the tiniest task he refuses. He will eat a snack and just throw the wrapper on the floor and never pick it up. It could be decomposing into the earth and he still would just step over it. When I ask him to do something he tells me he’s never been the cleaning type and he never will. If I ask him to give the baby a bath because I have other things to do then he says just skip the bath instead of doing it.
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You always maintained your impartiality with us. You encouraged Rita to be more assertive in stating what she wanted to get from your counseling sessions, as well as what she wanted to get from the relationship.
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