Something is off between my boyfriend and his son’s girlfriend

by Catherine
(Townsend Delaware )

I would like to ask, as a women who is in her late thirty’s, I have started feeling a bit self-conscious about the way I have aged below the waist. In this sense I have become very sensitive around my 51 year old boyfriend of eight years son's girlfriend. She has matured into a beautiful young woman and it wasn’t until a few months ago that I started paying attention to my boyfriend’s behavior. Between us we have children and residing in the same home with my daughter and his two sons. His sons are older in their early twenties.

I started noticing my boyfriend has started putting me down in front of his son’s girlfriend. He often makes fun of something about me. Just joking around he says. He has also become very distant while she is in the room However very sexually active once she leaves. He gets very angry with me if I do not have sex with him I might add!. I feel he also pays attention to the things she says and often will make sure he faces her in the room with his back towards me. If there is a group conversation.I feel jealous insecure and emotionally abandonment.

I have brought the things I have noticed up to him. Of course his behavior was definitely defensive and was angry and then I get the silent treatment. Please let me know what am I to do. I am getting a bit depressed over this.

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