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Spending Time Together

by Jack W.
(Milwaukee, WI)

My wife feels that I spend time with her because I have to and not because I want to. When I am spending time with her she always feels that I would rather play video games or spend time online with my friends. I love my wife and want to spend time with her, but I also enjoy spending time with friends playing video games. I feel like I do give her my full attention and have a lot of fun when I am with her, trying to show her that I want to be there with her. I also try to schedule out time when I am hanging out with my friends playing video games so that she knows when I am doing that, but this makes her feel that its a this for that deal. If I don't schedule time and tell her I am playing video games on a whim, she feels that I would rather do that then spend time with her. My wife does not have an outlet like I do as its not nice outside and all of her close friends have moved out of state, and we are in quarantine. How do I get my wife to believe that I do want to spend time with her instead of playing video games?

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