Stuck between two

by prat

Hi. I am 27 years old and I love someone very much and will be marrying him soon. However I met a guy in the office and I got attracted towards him and even he has same feelings for me. He is already married but wants to marry me as well as its allowed in his beliefs.

I want to say NO to him right away but don't want to hurt his feelings and also I don't feel like cheating on my fiance.

Please advise how do I stop this relationship,we have no future together as he is married already but he wants me to be with him.

I don't want to spoil my relationship with my fiance.

Please help.

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