Supportive Girlfriend

by Sara
(Salt Lake City)

I have been with my boyfriend for seven years now everything about him is great except he is addicted to adult apps and online websites where he can interact with other women. I have caught him on many occasions and every time he denies his involvement. Obviously he is lying because I have proof in my hands. I have told him that I understand if this is an addiction and to come to me when he needs to talk but he never has. I try to be as supportive as I can but emotionally it is destroying me.

I can't help him if he doesn't want it. He has hurt me so much over these past years because of the lying, if he would just admit what he has done then we could start the healing process of our relationship. I have no idea what to do next or how to emotionally prepare for this situation but I am definitely on my last leg. Please help me.

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Jul 29, 2018
Praying over your situation
by: Anonymous

All I can say is I am with you on how you are feeling. I wrote my story too and my husband is not doing anything to make a change and be better so all I can say is you may have to take steps to separating.. that’s the conclusion I’ve cone too.

I’m going to start preparing myself for the separation. I’m sorry this is happening to you, it’s heartbreaking. put yourself around people that support you and live you so you don’t feel alone. Praying all works out for you.

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