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Talk Therapy where the counselor tells you to SHUT UP

by Jason
(Oklahoma)

My psychologist liked to use the “gaslighting” technique on me, it would go like this:

Psy: “I can’t talk to you if you’re aggressive or angry. ”
Me: “But I’m not acting that way, what behaviors do you deem agressive or angry?”
Psy: “Just the agressive ones like you arguing is being aggressive.”
Me: “Well, I’m not arguing”
Psy: “Just letting you know I’m not going to argue with you” (then he broke into the silent treatment for the remainder of my session)

OR the time he actually just outright told me to shut up (you know, the “talk therapy” where the counselor tells you to shut up)

OR he'd act like a douchebag:
Me: “Dr. (blank) I really need to tell you something, could you please listen”…
Psy: “go ahead, I’m listening”
Me: “the other day…(him interrupting me)
Psy: “just letting you know I’m listening”
Me: “well, as I was saying, the other day”… (2 seconds later-him interrupting)
psy: “yes, I’m listening”
Me: “well, the other day” (2 seconds later-him interrupting)
psy: “go ahead”
Me: (silence)
Psy: “go ahead”
Me: (silence)
then my next session a week later he states: “you really need to open up more”

I finally let him talk to the ethics board...

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Jul 02, 2016
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WTH
by: Anonymous

For controlling interruptive or faulty therapists, just bring a little safety whistle with you so that whenever they make a mistake or interrupt you, blow a loud slightly long blast with the whistle. Continue to blow nonstop if they continue talking nonsense or give you the silent treatment, until they apologize and admit their mistakes.

Apr 27, 2014
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sounds like a quack
by: Anonymous

hope he got his just rewards.

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