by anonymous

I need some opinions about my situation. My husband of 35 years had pictures of our neighbor who lives across the street in his photos. Only 3 but in an album with her initials as the title. 2 were taken off facebook, 1 a long distance picture he took at a neighborhood party.1 of the pictures is her in a 2 piece swimsuit. (We have been having a lot of difficulties in the last year of our marriage) 25 years ago he had an affair with a mutual acquaintance sometimes in my own home. He promised me he would leave me first before ever doing that again and we have had no issues in that department until now..

When confronted about it, he said he did that a while back and it was nothing. He said he told me that he would not cheat on me again and he never did things to himself while looking at these pictures. Grant it I believe he never cheated but he could not or would not give a really good explanation other than she is an attractive women and he admires how she carries herself. He admitted he was wrong. He has no other album

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