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by anonymous

Hi.

I'm not quite sure how to explain my troubles with my partner. He's a kind man, and he provides for his family.. however.. New Years a couple of years ago, he shocked me on a deep level. Something went wrong during the fireworks, and it started firing straight at us. Instead of helping his children, he ran to save himself leaving them to fend for themselves. Luckily I was able to get them to safety.

Now, I struggle with the fact that I've lost all respect for him. Is there anyway back from this? Should I leave? I would have to share custody... that means leaving my children with a cowardly man every other week, who's proven he would not protect them.

I'm not sure what would be the best solution here, to protect the children. Wait 'till my kids have grown? Then leave? That's 10 years from now...
Would love some advice on this.

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