the way he confusses me

by voun cherry

Well I've been here before so this should not be hard for me to do, but it really is because I have now come to know that when it comes to love, it can be a blindful thing.

So starting out I would like to say I've been in my relationship for about 3 years now and found myself deeply in love with this man, and I promised myself that after my relationship with my kids father, I would not put my heart in harms way anymore. but look you can't stop the heart from falling in love. but anyway I'm a nice person who will bend over backward for any one and now i'm starting to feel taken advantage of. If its not his way it's no way, if I don't move fast enough than i'm stupid or dumb or a stupid mother........,(if you know what I mean.

if we go to be happy some night and he been drinking he's the happiest person ever. but when he wakes up the man makes me want to pack my stuff and leave. and for some reason I still love him. I act as if my life would end without him in my life, like I can't make it by myself, and that ain't good.

The other nite I was dead sleep, gone to the world and it was about 4:00 in the morning. so he screams my name and I jump up quick. he asked me where was his candy and I said, it's in the drawer, did you look for it and he said yea, I'm about sick of you and that is now where I got confused at cause i'll do anything for you anytime of day or nite, and he stay treating me like his slave.

i'm just unsure of this relationship but at the same time so in love. someone please help me figure out what my mind is going through.

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Apr 15, 2015
Ditch him
by: Anonymous

I understand you completely and support you. I am in similar nasty situation. It's good that you are not married.

No one is as important as you. You are the only person that should matter to yourself. Ditch him and be happy that you have yourself and you don't need anyone to be at your side.

May 05, 2014
I had a similar relationship
by: Anonymous

Sorry to hear about your problem. I understand it, having had a similar situation.
You are being abused. Try to get rid of him asap. You don't deserve to be treated like that.
A big hug

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