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Totally Broken

by Nikki
(Indiana)

I just found on my husbands phone that he has several accounts on adult websites and has paid for them and sent money to women for nude pictures.


My husband and I have been married for 12 years. In that 12 years the topic of sex and intimacy have been fought about. However over the last 6 months I really thought we were in a good place. I am just sick to my stomach at my findings.

What do I do? Confront him? Try to swallow it and not make it a big deal? Please help!

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