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What should I do?

by A.J.
(Kentucky )

My husband of 3 years only touches intimately maybe once or twice a year now that we are married , yet he can get on the internet and look up porn, and send highly inappropriate messages to my Facebook friends...


He says nothing like that to me anymore, and it makes me feel like he is completely uninterested in me, and if I bring it up, he says he is just joking with them, and drops the subject. He never wants to talk about our relationship.

I've seriously thought about leaving, but looking for other opinions before I do so. I'm not sure what to do or what to think. Any advice would be great!

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