Why did I snoop?

by Lori

Have you ever heard the phrase be careful what you wish for? Well I certainly didn’t wish to find what I have when I snooped on my husbands phone.

We have been together for 19 years and he helped me raise my kids whom he loves like his own. He’s a very manly man by stature, his job and actions. I recently checked his searches on his phone and came across some porn but not just any porn it was shemale porn! I thought maybe it was a mistake and a one time deal but I waited about two weeks and checked again and I found the same thing.

I don’t know how to react? He has a gay brother and a gay uncle but he always makes it clear that he doesn’t understand why they are gay? Why is he watching gay porn? How do I confront him?

Wow I’m in shock! We are in our 40’s and have a very good relationship. He tells me all the time how lucky he is to have me. Idk what to do?

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