Why does my husband maintain friendships with people who disrespect me?

by Carolyn P.
(Tampa, Florida)

My husband and I are older and remarried two years. He has one woman friend in particular who approached me to tell me she has a crush on him and wanted to know if he is any good in bed. I asked him to sever any ties with her.

She is a troublemaker. I dont want anything to do with her. Even though I have her blocked, she wont leave us alone. Why is ny husband not putting an end to her once and for all? As a result of this conflict, I have asked him go move out until he gets his priorities straight. He sent me a message - everywhere I look, I see you. He wants to come back.

Id like him back, back on the condition he gets rid of that troublesome woman once and for all. Is he to be trusted? We live in Tampa and she is in Connecticut.

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Sep 20, 2023
Why does my husband maintain friendships with people who disrespect me?
by: Anonymous

You are correct. Your husband must sever all contact with this woman if he is committed to your marriage.

This woman is interested in your husband and breaking up your marriage. Likewise, your husband is enjoying the attention. It is a game and an unhealthy one.

Stand your ground!

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