Wife with no desire for physical affection

by BO

I'm not even talking about the bedroom. No hugs, no kisses...nothing. I confronted her about my desire/need for physical touch in my realizing an expression of love and she has now resorted to mocking me in discussing "Love languages." I know she values quality time and acts of service.I deliver on those. Me, I value physical touch and words of affirmation. Words "I love you" ... "You look handsome." ..."Travel safely."

Help me to know she cares, but when it comes to physical expression, She's not capable. I'm just left to feel like a "needy husband." I'm tired of being disappointed, feeling guilty for wanting a hug or a kiss and want to try to learn how to handle the let down and channel the need elsewhere in a positive way. 20 years in, what to do?

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