wondering why?

by shavona
(Glenn Allen, VA)

OK... so I'm back up here again to receive some advice about my relationship... I've been with my boyfriend for about five years now and let me tell you it's been a bit of a struggle.let me start of by sex is a non-factor to him at all, maybe once month and I'm only 34. he sits around and complains about everything, don't cook or clean but he does work. he's the type of person who acts as if arguing is a hobby and picks fights for no reason.

I'm a good-hearted person who just wants to be happy in life but I'm really sad on the inside. I always find myself asking myself why I even bother, but at the same time I love him. please give me some positive advice on what I should do.

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